Wednesday, March 26, 2008

Proposal - 1 -

Sunday morning. Door bell is ringing. I hope its a dream.
"Oh.. Hello.." comes the voice from my mom.
"Hello.. Aunty... Where is Sachin?" Replies the person at door.
"Oh.. Sachin is still sleeping..Come in.. Sit down, I will wake him up..."
I really hope no shouts come from my mom and this is still a dream, but then u cant really hope that ur hope is true, so the inevitable finally comes - "SACHIN....SACHIN... GET UP SOON... UR FREN Mr.Everything has come and waiting for you downstairs". There is no choice left for me as I have to get up on this early sunday morning (10AM) to meet Mr.Everything. Downstairs, I saw Mr.Everything, a little nervous, biting his nails and waiting anxiously for me. I came down yawning, told HI..HELLO.., he seemed to be taken by surprise at first and then returned with a nervous "Hello, good morning". I washed my face and took him upstairs to know why he was early to my home. The conversation went in this way -

"So what brings u here so early in the day dude?" - I ask.
"Hey maan, I am kind of worried. I need to tell u something" - He replies.
"Sure. Go ahead. Anything to help you out man".
"U see, this is very critical for me. This is a decision of my life"
"hey its ok dude. Tel me whats the problem"
"You know my girl friend, Ms.lovely, right? Today I am going to her home"
"Ahhhaaaa... So...."
"Actually, I think you did not understand. I told.. I AM GOING TO HER HOME DUDE"
"Oh... Haan... So... Which part do you think I dint get? U r going to her home, Right!!!. Is this some kind of trick question or statement?"
"Abbba... Ok, its like this, I am going to meet her parents, GOT IT?"
"If you are going to her house, u will OBVIOUSLY meet her parents.. Whats the trick?"
"No use explaining to u, Ok listen.. I am going to meet her parents to ask her hand"
"Oh...Like that.. Oh... U mean u have decided to marry her?"
"OBVIOUSLY da..."
"Wait, this is confusing.. if u want to meet her parents, u should be going to her place, so why are u here on an EARLY SUNDAY MORNING!!!!"
"Oh, U see I am feeling bit nervous and couldn't muster the courage to go to her place alone..."
"Aaaha.. I see that.. So what do you want me to do now?"
"I want you to come with me to her place"
"Oh... oh... Hold on mister... NO WAY... What will I do coming there... I dont even know them."
"Oh Dont worry dude. I am there right. It will be fine. Dont worry."
"Hmmm... Alrite if you say so, I will come with you. So the girl knows that you are going to talk to her parents about the proposal?"
"Actually I want this to be a surprise. She doesn't know about the proposal. But I am sure she wont deny my proposal. We are sooo close."
"hmmm...Lets hope so..."

So we head for Ms.Lovely's house. Both of us now nervous. Him for obvious reason, me for being stupid enough to accept the invitation of going along with him. I am wondering what would I talk to her parents and what questions they might come up with. The same worry is going through Mr.Everything's head as well. I start the talk during the ride...
"So what do you think her dad might ask"
I was already feeling bad and to make the situation worse, I got the following reply -
"Oh I forgot to tel, her dad is a retired military officer."
"Oh I see....!!!, So what do you think he might ask?"
"Hmmm... Dont worry dude. I have come well prepared for general set of questions which he might ask. I did a research on FAQs for marriage selection process and have come up with this list".
He showed me a list spawning through 3 pages of A4 size sheets written on both sides. Probable questions and most likely answers and he proudly announced "The most likely answers are all written by me. I am totally prepared dude. Dont worry."
"Hmmm... Not bad dude. Nice... Ok then lets just go there and u do the talking"

So finally we reach her place. The place looks deserted with a warning on gate which reads "Beware of the dog". In this situation, the word dog did not seem to scare us than the word "DAD". Carefully we reach the front door and Mr.Everything now rings the bell....

[To Be Continued...]

Tuesday, March 11, 2008

TRUE LOVE

“LOVE” a very sweet little 4 letter word which can make a lot of difference to any person in this world. The definition for love varies from one person to another and hence there is no actual perfect general definition on Love. Love as I say can be defined as a feeling in which one feels happy. In current generation Love is always assumed to be either from a GirlFrend or BoyFrend which is not always true. A general frenship can generate love but lets not get into these details now. So let me talk about the current generation itself. Love is categorized into 3 types – Attraction, One-way and True love.

Attraction – This is just another form of love. Attraction can be defined as an illusion of love. Some people are instantly attracted toward opposite sex. This is similar to what they call as “love at first sight”. I personally believe that there is no such thing as “love at first sight” simply because you cannot experience love by watching others. Hence I classify love at first sight is just an attraction. Some people claim that they had love at first sight and hence they got married etc etc, but I believe they got attracted at first sight and love gradually developed. I have seen a person who claims to be in love with different girls on a monthly basis. The best part is when every girl disappoints him, he finds another one immediately to share his grievances. There is a saying “History repeats” and this situation is like “His-story keeps repeating”.

One-Way – As the name suggests, this is only a one-way love. But again, for a love to blossom, it should be from both the people falling in love with each other. Yet again, one-way love deals with failure being the end result in most cases. There are cases where one-way love has given happiness to both people (one unaware of the other person loving him\her) but let us not get into these details anyway. So One-way love is just an elongated version of Attraction. Attraction is the common action which happens before turning into a One-way love in most of the scenarios. In One-way love, one who loves is usually the person who ends up spending more for the other person. The other person gets benefited by such a generous donor and would not hesitate to take advantage of it. Although you can argue that when a person is in love, spending should not matter, but then I would say, “Hello, THIS IS A ONE-WAY LOVE…..!!!!, Spending surely matters. Don’t you wanna save it for your TRUE LOVE???”. Anyways not much to talk on one sided affairs, so lets move on to main topic….

True Love - Aaah.. here it comes. The one thing which most people want to have in their life. In this form of love both people fall in love with each other and usually it ends up in a marriage. Well thats how Love marriages come into picture. There are constant debates on which is better, the love marriage or arranged marriage, but then both have their own advantage and disadvantages. But in both cases, you would have gone through a phase of true love. So essentially what it means is, true love involves compromises, but then the compromises are well worth for your true love. There are some lucky ones who don’t have to go through compromises, but then it’s a very rare case. Anyways, now I don’t have much to talk on this and hence I would conclude by giving a major difference in love marriage and arranged marriage - you don’t have say “I LOVE U” in arranged marriages. It is just implied…..